An expert has shared a step-by-step plan to stop ‘sibling s**.’
Yep, you read that right.
It’s very likely you’ve never heard of the unusual term and are under the impression it won’t apply to you, however, it’s possible you’re wrong.
Although it may sound bizarre, ‘sibling s**’ is a surprisingly common circumstance people in romantic relationships will encounter.
Fortunately, there’s a way to help get you out of this awkward situation.
In a piece for the Daily Mail, expert Tracey Cox warns of the dangers of ‘sibling s**’ and how she frequently receives messages about the problem in her inbox.
The bizarre term applies to people in long-term relationships who begin to find their s** life ‘uncomfortable,’ ‘awkward,’ and ‘wrong.’
A person may begin to feel their partner has become more like a sibling, roommate, or best friend rather than a lover.
Relationships can become a little too predictable and routine, which, in turn, takes away the excitement.
Fortunately, couples can make small changes to their relationship to make their s** life hot and steamy once more.
First, Cox suggests something rather simple that many people will probably find awkward – talking about it.
The expert advises you to reminisce about how great (and often experimental) s** can be in those early days and to make a pact to make it happen again.
Next, you need to addresses the missing ingredients – mystery and desire.
While it’s lovely to be close to your partner, it’s often the closest couples experiencing ‘sibling s**.’To get out of this rut, mix things up outside the bedroom.
Instead of popping down to your local for a bite to eat, try a brand new restaurant you’ve both wanted to try. Or, put yourself in a completely different environment and have a holiday.
Even watching something on TV together out of your typical genre will work!
But it’s also important for couples to have time apart.
You don’t need to be joined at the hip 24/7 to have a close relationship; by taking up separate hobbies or mixing with other circles, you’ll have something new to discuss.
Cox also references world-famous psychotherapist Esther Perel, who says it is crucial to appreciate your partner’s uniqueness and individual needs – it’s both healthier and s**ier not to agree on absolutely everything.
When you want to show your admiration and desire, it’s also time to be a little more racy.
Instead of pecking your partner on the cheek, switch it up and plant a kiss on their neck. When you want to compliment your partner, tell them they look hot and s**y rather than ‘nice.’
Compliments are also key when it comes to your s** life.
Think about what you enjoy about your s** life and make sure your partner knows about it, as well as anything you’d like to try.
You or your partner may be less open to trying something new, so you must tackle any confidence issues.
It’s important to make changes to rectify such feelings – eat healthier, exercise more, or treat yourself to new wardrobe pieces.
If you feel s**xier, desire will surely follow.
If confidence at trying new things in the bedroom isn’t an issue, or you’ve rectified any self-esteem issues, now it’s time to put pen to paper and each write down 10 things you’d like to try in the bedroom.
“Approve each other’s suggestions, then cut them up into 20 individual bits, fold and put in a jar,” Cox writes.
“Before you have s**, one of you chooses from the jar, and you do whatever it says.”
Surprises like this can be a simple but enjoyable way to add novelty.
Experimenting in the bedroom is also the perfect time to reveal your ‘dark side.’
Whether it’s admitting to a quirky adult film category you enjoy or there being a fantasy you’ve always wanted to fulfill, this is the perfect opportunity to open up about it and perhaps receive a much-needed ‘erotic jolt’ in your love life.
