A Reddit user shares the puzzling fallout from his intimate life with his girlfriend of several years. She suggested experimenting by switching roles in their intimate relationship, an experience he ended up enjoying.
However, her reaction afterward left him shocked when she questioned his sexuality and called for a break to “rethink some stuff.” He’s now left wondering if he was wrong for enjoying the experience she proposed. Read the full story below.
‘ AITAH for enjoying my intimate time with my girlfriend?’
I (20M) have been in a relationship with my very wonderful girlfriend Nana (21F) for a couple years, we were really close as kids and started dating around freshman year of highschool. If you asked either of us about any aspect of our relationship, we’d tell you how it’s all absolutely perfect.
That is, except for our intimate life. Don’t get me wrong, it’s good, but dear god it feels absolutely frustrating sometimes, Nana keeps wanting to experiment but it gets really annoying on my end at times.
Recently, she decided she wanted for us to try and switch roles, or in simpler terms, straight up peg me (Oh god I hate admitting this.), usually I’d give and she’d receive, but she wanted to experiment differently. We did the deed and I personally enjoyed myself a lot, and I thought she did too.
A few days pass and she gradually distances herself and doesn’t even kiss or hug me, so I decided to sit her down and talk. It was going well until she said “Are you gay?? You shouldn’t have enjoyed our intimacy that much.” Safe to say I was absolutely baffled, I tried to elaborate the fact that I’m attracted to her and only her.
And don’t get me wrong, I’m not h**ophobic, but WHAT? She immediately told me to hush and that we need a break so she can rethink some stuff, I tried to again explain myself, but she just totally broke down and I just decided to leave it at that.
It’s been a week now and I’m worried about her and worried I fucked up. So, reddit! I’ve come forward with my deepest darkest secrets and want to know, am I an a**hole for literally just enjoying what my own girlfriend suggested?
Here’s how people reacted to the post:
Unusual-restaurant14 − NTA, she asked for it and got upset you enjoyed it? Did she want you to hate it? Was she trying to degrade you? Either way be happy it’s over.
Free_Guarantee_2561 − It’s a little concerning that she wanted to do it and expected you to hate it, really actually s**tty of her
Lakeside_001 − Ask her if she’s gay because she likes it when you go down on her, because that’s what lesbians do!? Sometimes you have to fight irrational with irrational.
Final-Rice6054 − That’s unbelievably immature of your gf. First, If she does even a modicum of research, she could realize that many people will say the male g-spot is a few inches in there. Most guys who relax enough to do it, enjoy it. Second, being gay has to do with wanting s** with other males.
If you aren’t interested in s** with another male, you’re not gay. End of story. (Assuming honest with self etc etc). But certainly nothing about enjoying being pegged by your gf even remotely suggests you would enjoy s** with a male. Third, even if you did like guys, that wouldn’t necessarily mean you didn’t like her.
It would be possible you were bisexual. And especially given that she wanted this, it’s just weird that she’s all upset by it now. Honestly, if she keeps this up, I know it’ll hurt now, but you’ll have dodged a long term bullet. Because she’s being ridiculously weird and kind of anti-queer in some way.. Good luck
Excellent_Star_153 − Silly. She’s kind of a big a**hole here. SHE initiated!!!! Wth? Men have prostates that when stimulated it can literally be a better o**asm than from your d**k. I peg my husband sometimes. He is not gay nor have I ever thought that.
She’s whack. Why would she want to do that then be weird?? And if you enjoyed it why would that make her happy. I can almost o**asm myself while pegging. Dude, show her this thread.
Sencifouy − You’re NTA.. However, she kind of is. Whether something is gay or not depends on who you do it with, consensually. Nothing else. Not the act in and of itself, nothing.
Even then, you could just as much be bisexual hence still be quite into her. If anything, you being gay does NOT warrant shushing you and breaking down.. She has some soul searching to do
True_Bandicoot2942 − she’s the one who wanted to do this, was she just wanting to find a reason to break up with you? cus this doesn’t make sense from the outside looking in.
SachillesMax − I can’t say I think it would be a pleasurable feeling but I’ve never tried and quite frankly it’s just a feeling. Being gay is about who you are attracted to. Not what physical stimulations you enjoy. Try explaining it that way. It doesn’t matter what you like if you aren’t attracted to men
Alert-Raspberry1140 − NTA!! Also getting pegged by a girl isn’t gay. Getting pegged by another guy is gay. People only think it’s gay for a straight guy to like it up the ass because they’re a lil h**ophobic and can’t see that it’s a harmful stereotype. It’s just simple science.
Men’s prostates are in their b**t and the prostate is very stimulating. Like others have said, it’s concerning that your gf wanted to try it and got upset you liked it. Maybe ask her if she expected you to hate it.
Even if she is cool with gay people, she might be innately prejudiced/h**ophobic. So many stereotypes need to be broken. If she can’t get past this, then y’all weren’t meant to be. At least you know something new you like!
kgetit − That a mean thing to do, put you through a “test?” A test she didn’t want you to enjoy? Kind of puts a different spin on consent.
Edit: you can enjoy prostrate stimulation and not be gay.
Do you think the user’s enjoyment was unfairly judged, or is this a case of mismatched expectations in the relationship? How would you handle a situation where intimate preferences lead to misunderstandings? Share your thoughts below!
